“In 2007, I was 28, had saved 20 taels of gold, and was dating a college student. When she asked about my plans to buy a house, I said I would rent first and buy later. She said nothing then suddenly broke up with me and married an overseas Vietnamese in Australia soon after.
If your girlfriend suddenly left after finding out you don’t own a home and still live with your family, it may not be because she stopped loving you; she just has different priorities when it comes to finances and stability.
It is a practical choice. Many women and families put housing security above romance. Her silence or coldness meant she had already made up her mind that love was not enough to make up for the lack of material security, just like my ex who went looking for a better life in Australia.
My advice: Don’t beat yourself up. See this as a lesson in that sometimes love cannot compete with real-life priorities. Focus on building your finances. When you are stable, you will meet someone who shares your goals. Stay strong.”
User bitbon365 shared his story and offered this advice in response to the article “Dumped by girlfriend of two months for not owning a house.”
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Disagreement in life priorities can lead to break-ups. Photo by Pexels |
In that article, author The Phong said his girlfriend became distant and suddenly ended the relationship after learning he did not own a home and still lived with his parents and younger brother. The story received many reader comments.
Reader conangdepzai_9308 wrote: “I have a friend who was very selective and only got married at 31 to a man with a house, car, and no siblings. After the wedding, she found out he was addicted to gambling and lottery. He barely earned enough to support his habits.
Her in-laws were strict and controlling. Even after she had a baby, they did not lend her a hand and even expected her to cook and do all household chores. Her husband refused when she asked to move out. She felt trapped.
It shows that marrying someone with a house and car does not guarantee happiness because those things do not belong to you.”
Reader Bui Minh Bich disagreed: “I support the woman. She was honest. If the relationship failed to meet her standards, she ended it early instead of taking advantage of him, leading him on or keeping him as a backup option. The man simply did not meet her expectations.
Buying a house before marriage is difficult but not impossible. Whether she later finds someone with a house or lowers her standards is her choice. Nothing wrong with that.”
Reader Phong Duc agreed with this sentiment: “This is not a big deal. Maybe the girl comes from a wealthy family several houses, cars, and a comfortable life. If the man’s background is more modest, she has the right to choose someone with a more similar status.
I think this is normal. There is nothing to be sad about. Two months of dating means you were still in the getting-to-know stage. It is reasonable to break up if things don’t click.”
Reader Dan commented: “The author does not have his own home so his girlfriend chose to end the relationship. If that is true, it is her choice and completely normal. The author should look for someone compatible who can accept him as he is. There is no need to criticize or blame anyone.”
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