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Marriage is a very sacred and beautiful relationship. It is a promise of love, trust, understanding and companionship between two people. But in today’s fast-paced and changing times, many people do not take this relationship as seriously as they did earlier. Everything feels great in the initial days of marriage. Both are happy with each other, romance happens, spend time and take care of each other’s small things. But after a few months or years, bitterness starts appearing in the relationship.

Fights start over small matters, communication reduces and people start feeling bored or bored with each other. Be it a man or a woman, either of them can get stuck in this situation. Many times it happens that there is such a void in the relationship that a third person enters. However, this is happening at an age where a person expects understanding from another person. Some extra marital affairs have happened after the age of 40 and some after the age of 35.

How much damage does the relationship cause?

We call this extramarital affair. It can be physical or emotional, but either way it causes great damage to the original relationship. Now the question arises that when a person loves his spouse, then how does he get attracted towards someone else? This can happen in any marriage whether it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage. Today we will especially talk about extra marital affairs of men. To understand the reasons behind this, we spoke to Dr. Jasmine Arora (Clinical Psychologist, Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon).

Main reasons for extra marital affairs in men

1. Lack of emotional satisfaction

In marriage, if husband and wife are not able to provide complete support and understanding to each other emotionally, then gradually the distance starts increasing. Physical relations may be good, but the connection with the heart may diminish. In such a situation, if someone outside connects you emotionally, the attraction increases.

2. Lack of love and understanding

After marriage, initially everything seems perfect, but with time, discord starts. The earlier love, romance and care diminishes. If someone outside shows affection, attention and love, then the other path starts looking more attractive.

3. Not getting praise and attention

Praise and attention are very important in every relationship. This maintains newness and freshness in the relationship. If the wife does not praise her husband, does not take care of his small things or does not give her time, then the husband starts feeling unimportant. In such a situation, if someone outside gives him praise and attention, he gets attracted towards that person.

4. Boredom from married life

The daily life of many people becomes the same – home, office, children, household chores. There is no newness left in this. Newness is needed in marriage, if it is not found then the partners start looking for new excitement outside.

5. Lack or dissatisfaction in sex

Sex plays a very important role in a married relationship. If the frequency of sex decreases, or one of the two is not satisfied, then the relationship begins to weaken. This deficiency often becomes a major reason for extra marital affairs in men.

influence of the outside world

Nowadays, extra marital affairs are shown in a very light and funny manner on social media, web series, movies and the internet. This makes people think whether doing this is normal or is it a bit exciting.

What is the difference between the affairs of men and women?

Marriage is based on trust and love. But when relationships start deteriorating, people start looking for support outside. The interesting thing is that men and women have extra marital affairs for different reasons.

Why do men have extra marital affairs?

According to relationship experts and research, most men go into affairs because they want physical attraction, novelty and excitement. Their married life becomes same and monotonous

The affair becomes a kind of ego boost or adventure for them.

Research shows that the biggest reason for men is physical satisfaction.

Many times they consider it just attraction or fun and not a serious relationship. But this has a deep impact on their original marriage.

Why do women have extra marital affairs?

In the case of women, things are a little different. Experts say that women mostly go towards affairs when they feel that their partner is not understanding their feelings and emotions. They are looking for someone who can provide emotional support.

If there is less communication in the marriage, if the partner does not care or ignores, then women look for attention, love and understanding outside.

This means that for women, affair is not only about physical but also about emotional connection, care and understanding.

Many times, after enduring years of neglect, women move towards someone who can listen, appreciate and understand their value.

Expert opinion

Experts say that extra-marital affairs should not be ignored just by calling them ‘cheating’. There are many personal and social reasons hidden behind this. For men, this is mostly due to temporary attraction or excitement. For women, it becomes a way to fulfill unfulfilled emotional needs in marriage. Experts say that in such cases it is not right to just blame. The real need is to talk openly. When husband and wife share their problems and try to understand each other’s needs, the situation can improve to a great extent.

What is the impact on the family?

Whether it is a man or a woman, the biggest loss of affair falls on the relationship and family. Once trust is broken, it becomes very difficult to rebuild it. It also has a bad effect on children. They suffer emotional stress after seeing their parents’ fights, get scared or become afraid of relationships themselves. The reasons for men and women may be different, but the result is the same. Weakening of relationships and breakdown of trust.

What should be done in the end?

If you want to save the relationship, both of you will have to work together:

talk to each other openly

give time, pay attention, praise

Be understanding and seek counseling if needed

But if someone is repeatedly cheating and does not make any effort to improve, then the decision has to be taken thoughtfully. An affair can give some moments of happiness, but in the long run it breaks the relationship and can ruin the family. Therefore, it is better to solve problems not through affairs but through dialogue and understanding.