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I feel hurt by my family and deeply heartbroken.

I am emotionally broken because of the behaviour of my father and siblings towards me. I am in my 40s and I have a loving husband and children. However, my father raised me in a very controlling and manipulative environment, which led me to develop low self-esteem and depression.

Because of this, I have lost the ability to truly enjoy life. My career did not develop much, even though I studied at top colleges in Pakistan and the United States.

My brother and sister both live in Lahore. Together with my father, they have decided to keep the inheritance for themselves. They hide things from me and constantly lie. Recently, they have also started avoiding contact with me since the issue of inheritance came up.

I feel abandoned, deceived, and emotionally betrayed. I sometimes wish my father had left nothing behind. I have suffered throughout my life as a child, as a young person, and now again in adulthood.

I am not sure what exactly I am asking for—perhaps just thoughts, support, and guidance for healing.please give your advice. Thanks.

Solutions; Aurora Khan

Every child has a different destiny. Some are deprived of wealth, some of health, and some, sadly, grow up deprived of love and emotional security from their own family, and that pain cuts the deepest.

May Allah heal your heart and bring ease into your life. Just make sure your own children never feel unseen, unequal, or emotionally neglected the way you once did.

Syed Abrar

It is definitely your behaviour that is the issue. You are being disrespectful towards your father. You should also look at the other side of the mirror and review your own actions.

You are showing signs of an inferiority and superiority complex, which is reflected in your words. This may be causing you to misbehave with your family and your father, who raised you. This is leading to such situations.

I do not know who you are, but I have witnessed a similar family case.

Just calm down and fulfill your responsibilities. Show respect, and ask them for love. Do not demand things. With just 2–4 sessions of stable and mature behaviour, things may improve in your favour. But it is you who must take the first, second, and third step.

Ask your father to forgive you for all your mistakes and behaviour.

Hina Shahzad

This is the same story as my husband’s. He had a traumatic childhood, and his family tortured him so much that he developed psychosis. He has been taking antidepressants for the past seven years. They abandoned him just one month after our marriage, and even now they continue to manipulate and emotionally destabilize him using different tactics.

Farnaz Hassan

Imam Al-Shafi’i said:”My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.”

Waqas Khan

Challenge the inheritance mutation in court if there is any. Do not stay silent. Speak up for yourself and your dignity. Raise your voice for the rights that were bestowed upon you even before you were born.

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