Do you ‘overshare’ (Oversharing)? In other words, do you say the things of your personal life that you don’t want to say to others? So beware of saints! Unknowingly, you may be the laughingstock of people close to you. How to understand whether there is really a habit of talking excessively?
1. People lose interest in talking
Maybe you are giving so much information about yourself to the other person that he listens with interest at first, but eventually loses interest. You are becoming annoying to him. Usually people don’t say it directly with their mouth, but their facial expression conveys it.
2. Explained further
When you sit down to tell the past history of a story, you can’t stop at anything. This may go on in a chat with friends, but in a professional setting no one wants to engage in such a long conversation. Even if you don’t stop in front, they might laugh about your personal matters behind the scenes. Or will criticize your character.
3. Feeling uncomfortable after speaking
Many times he says something under the influence of emotion, which is very personal. Feeling guilty after being told. I started feeling weak. Feels ‘exposed’ in front of others.
How to stop ‘oversharing’?
• Follow ‘traffic light rules’. First 20 seconds of speaking the light is ‘green’ (the person in front is listening). After 40 seconds the light turns ‘yellow’ (prepare to hang up now). After 40 seconds the light is ‘red’ (saying too much at once, stop and let someone else say it).
• Take breaks between speaking. Stop and think about what to say in the next sentence. In a hurry to fill the silence, people usually end up talking too much.
• Think of a conversation like a tennis match—the ball has to go back and forth. Listen carefully to the person in front of you, it will greatly reduce the urge to talk about yourself.
• Keep a clear boundary between work and personal life. Before talking to colleagues or acquaintances, decide in your heart not to discuss certain topics at all.
• Before giving any personal information to others, think, is it really necessary?
Don’t forget, once spoken, there is no way to take it back. So the practice of oversharing, while seemingly innocuous, can create complex problems in some cases.
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