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New Delhi:If you also ask your child to recite poetry, sing songs or dance in front of relatives or guests, then there is a need to re-think about this habit. According to parenting coach Dr. Khushboo, by doing this repeatedly, the child can develop the habit of pleasing everyone (people pleasing), hence parents should take special care of this and should not put pressure on the child to perform in front of anyone.

But many children feel uncomfortable at such times. Some children become silent due to shyness, while some perform out of compulsion even when they don’t feel like it. Parenting coach Dr. Khushboo says that children should not be forced just to entertain others. He said, "Your child is not an entertainment channel." Parents should respect children’s feelings and choices even in front of relatives and guests.

bachcha is not an entertainment channel

Parenting coach Dr. Khushboo says that often when guests come to the house, parents ask their children to recite poetry, sing songs or dance. But it is important to understand that a child is not just there to entertain others. Therefore, parents should respect the wishes and feelings of children.

Many times parents put pressure on children to listen to their praise.

According to Dr. Khushboo, many times parents make their children perform in front of guests or relatives so that people praise their child and make them feel good. But if the child is shy or refuses to do something, some parents scold him in front of everyone or make fun of him. According to parenting coach, it is not right to do this. Parents should understand and respect the feelings of children.

This habit can also become the cause of performance anxiety

According to Dr. Khushboo, when children are repeatedly asked to do or perform something in front of others, they may develop the habit of pleasing everyone. Gradually the child starts thinking that his importance is only when he makes others happy or entertains them, later on this habit can also become the reason for performance anxiety and lack of self-confidence in children.

It is important to respect children’s feelings

Dr. Khushboo says that good parents respect the feelings and choices of their children. They do not put pressure on children to do anything even in front of relatives or guests. If a guest asks the child to sing a poem, song, or dance and he or she doesn’t feel like it, parents can lovingly say, "Right now he doesn’t feel like it, when he feels like it, he will do it himself. This does not put unnecessary pressure on the child and he feels safe and comfortable.