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Mirza Ghalib still rules the hearts of people with his love-filled poems. Sometimes the painful stories of his infidelity, sometimes his stories of affection and love, all seem as fresh even today. One such line comes to mind which fits perfectly with the love of today’s times: There was no age to fall in love, I just saw a face and fell in love. That means there is no age limit in love. It didn’t take just one look and the heart gave its verdict.

This sounds very beautiful in books and poetry, but in reality, when we see a 45-50 year old middle-aged man walking hand in hand with a 20-25 year old girl on the road or on social media, the first question that comes to our mind is – ‘This love also does not look good at every age, brother.’ And then a lot of questions arise in the mind. After all, why do these older men like younger girls so much? Is it really just love, or are there some other reasons behind it? So let us find the answer to this question today.

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Age old habits and customs of society

It has been prevalent in our country for hundreds of years that men marry girls much younger than them. In earlier times, the relationship between a 40-45 year old man and an 18-22 year old girl was considered absolutely normal. Was the reason clear? Pressure from the family, ‘settlement’ of the girl early, dowry and other social compulsions of the relationship and the belief that the younger daughter-in-law will be able to take care of the house better. Although now this thinking is slowly changing, but it has not gone completely.

Women ‘grow up’ early, men late

Girls often become emotionally very mature at the age of 20-22. At the same time, even after crossing 30, boys sometimes behave like children. Now when a 28 year old girl is more intelligent, responsible and planning than her 28 year old boyfriend and gets ahead in career, then the boy starts feeling a little scared. He feels that there might be pressure on him. In such a situation, when a 22-23 year old girl is with him, he feels like an ‘elder brother’, ‘mentor’ or ‘hero’. There he faces less challenge and feels more in control.

Desire for children and descendants

Biology also plays a big role in this. A girl of 20 to 30 years of age has the highest fertility, which means the chances of having a healthy child are highest. Many men (especially those who are getting married late for the first time or getting married for the second time) think that ‘if you want to establish a family, you need the right partner at the right time’, hence they give preference to a younger girl.

Boredom and the search for refreshment

By the age of 40-50, work, EMI, children’s education, office tension, everything becomes a circle in life and the person gets bored.

In such a situation, if a 23-25 ​​year old girl laughs and talks with him, has fun, calls him lovingly with names like ‘Jaanu’, ‘Baby’, ‘Papa’ (yes, some people call him like that too!), then all his stress goes away. He feels like he is young again. There were colors in life again.

Control and the fun of being a ‘teacher’

Many men like to be the ‘big one’ in the relationship. He should take the girl to new places, teach her new things, show her the ‘world’. He feels good that his experience, his understanding and his strength are all coming to the fore. With a younger girl he feels that he can run the relationship as per his wish.

Respect and ‘young feel’ in society

Even today our society associates a woman’s beauty with her youth. While traveling with a young and beautiful wife, a man feels that ‘Look, I am getting older, but my charm is still intact!’ When people praise and applaud, the ego gets boosted from within. Besides, physical relations with a young partner also seem more exciting and active, this also makes her feel younger.

So overall… sometimes it is biology, sometimes the old thinking of society, sometimes man’s own ego and boredom, and sometimes just the desire to make life colorful again. All in all, these are the reasons why many older men get attracted towards younger girls. Love is love, it can happen anywhere, with anyone, at any age. It will still take some time for the society to digest it.