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Dr Hetal Gosalia addresses common sexual & relationship concerns. She discusses how a partner’s short temper can affect intimacy, emphasises understanding triggers & seeking professional help, advises young women to trust their instincts in emotionally dependent relationships, & highlights causes and solutions for erectile issues, encouraging open communication & therapy for a healthy sex life.

My husband is extremely short-tempered, and because of this I do not feel like having a physical relationship with him, which makes him angrier. What is the way out? RR, Sion

Agreed, it is emotionally difficult for you to have physical intimacy with your partner. Let us pause and make an effort to figure out why he is extremely short-tempered. What triggers his behaviour? Was he the same earlier? Has he developed anger issues recently? Is he under some stress, struggling with work or dealing with financial pressures? Is any physical illness creeping in?

In short, you need to understand his pattern and behaviour. Figure out moments that make him happy. Sexually, men are very sensitive. Your refusal makes him feel rejected. You having sex makes him feel accepted. It is not personal with you. It is basically his own frustration that shows up as anger on your refusal for sex. So be calm and dig deep. You will get your answers. Feel free to take professional help from someone who will listen to both of you individually and clear the cobwebs, which will normalise your sex life.

I am 22 and have a physical relationship with my boyfriend. I have this nagging feeling that he will ditch me. If I refuse to indulge him, he will 100% leave me. What should I do? RP, Bandra